Life, Love, and Crossroads
I am the anomaly. The one who “had it easy”. The one whose path was paved before her perhaps before she was even able to read or write.
I always knew what I wanted to be “when I grew up”.
GASP. That’s right. I knew from as early as 12 years old that I was going to follow in my father’s footsteps and become a businesswoman. I would go to Marist College, I would major in finance and economics with a minor in psychology (because business is all about people, people), I would graduate, and then I would join the Newman Team. And guess what? That is exactly how my life played out.
"Let me assure you that the path we choose early on is not always the path of least resistance."
Before I continue, there’s something you should know. I am a planner. A SERIOUS planner. I keep a calendar, I make weekly menus, and I lay my clothes out the night before. If you were to look up “type A+” in the dictionary, my picture would be right there. Honestly, I was thrilled that my life was playing out exactly how I wrote it in my “game of life” play by play.
Now, before you turn the page on this seemingly boring story (who likes to hear about the girl whose life goes according to plan?) let me assure you that the path we choose early on, is not always the path of least resistance. After graduation, I was faced with my fair share of trials to overcome that truly shaped who I am today and who I am choosing to become in the future.
"No matter how many decisions I tried to make early on and no matter how many of those decisions actually played out into completed plans – my story was never going to be finished right then."
Raise your hand if you’ve ever second guessed yourself? I was the queen of that. When you make big decisions (hello, like your career choice) early in life, it leaves you years to get in your own head and change your mind! Even worse, it gives you every alley and avenue to have regret. Have any of you ever fallen in love? I’m not alone? How about when you fall in love with a woman (what?!), in the military (oh no), who’s about to move across the country (you’re actually kidding me). One more. Who has ever faced a crossroad? And I’m not talking about – “should I wear a dress or a skirt today?” - I’m talking about a point in your life where if you go to the left, your life will be forever changed and if you go to the right, your life will be forever changed. Anyone’s arms tired yet?
All of these things were not a part of my plan. And yet, here we are.
My point is simple. I thought I had it all figured out. I thought I knew exactly what the rest of my life was going to look like. Do you know the only thing I actually have figured out right now? That I actually have nothing figured out. No matter how many decisions I tried to make early on and no matter how many of those decisions actually played out into completed plans – my story was never going to be finished right then. I couldn’t write my book in purple permanent marker when fate was only allowing me to write it in the lightest pencil I could find.
"No matter what you do - Life Happens. Love Happens. Crossroads Happen."
How different would our lives look if we embraced these “fates”? How free would we feel if we trusted in ourselves to make the decisions that would steer our paths exactly where they were supposed to go? That is how I am choosing to live. With bravery and authenticity and loyalty I am figuring this life out. I am honored to have been given the experiences of my beautiful life and I hope that with a little courage, you will feel the same about your own story.
Come along for the ride. All we’re doing is chasing happiness.
With Love and Light –
To read more from Lizzy Newman, check out the “Lizzy’s Legacy” category.